Dear Nickoel,
So I really liked this guy for a really long time. We had talked a little at school but i mostly connected with him thru texting. We like text all the time. My best friend, who totally knew how much I was madly in love with this guy would complain that i was alway texting this guy instead of her. But what is a girl supposed to do when she is in love. The down side is that no matter how much me and "the guy" would text he like never asked me out or anything. So I had this big talk with my best friend cuz I figured she would have good advice for me. She told me to stop texting him for like a week and then he would totally come running to me. So I did what she said, but he never texting me. Like two weeks went by when I finally text him. He was like, "wow i thought you were mad at me so i left you alone." so I just told him I had been busy and stuff. THEN he tells me that he cant text me cuz his new girlfriend would be jealous. I couldn't believe it! So I was like who's your girl friend. IT WAS MY BEST FRIEND!!!! What the heck?? I confronted my BFF and she was like "well he really didn't like you.. he was just talking to you to get to me.." I was so mad. Then she said this, "and i would appreciate it if you would leave my boyfriend alone." Now I know that there is supposed to be some kind of girl code, my older sister talks about it, but am I being mean if I stop being her friend because of this. I mean I'm totally pissed about this. What should I do?
- Broken Heart
Dear Broken Heart,
I'm sorry to hear what your going through with your friend. Teen relationships are very complicated sometimes, but no matter what age you are it sucks to feel like you've had a knife stuck in your back by and friend.
There is such a thing as a "Girl Code", but I'm telling you now that not all girls practice it. There are actually 58 rules in the official Girl Code definition in the Urban Dictionary. And I am personally shocked, cuz I wasn't aware there were so many. Your particular problem is a violation of Rule #1..
1# Rule no 1 and the MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL.. No girl may date her friend's; exs, past crushes, guys who have humiliated/used her and guys she currently fancies...
-Urban Dictionary
It is totally your call if you want to de-friend your BFF. And who could blame you for wanting to. In my opinion, if she was truly your best friend then she should have never even considered dating a guy that you liked. And unfortunately if you do stay friends there will always be a distrust there.
Follow your heart, and be proud that you know better then to do that to someone else. Your well on your way to being the kind of person other girls should be friends with.
So I really liked this guy for a really long time. We had talked a little at school but i mostly connected with him thru texting. We like text all the time. My best friend, who totally knew how much I was madly in love with this guy would complain that i was alway texting this guy instead of her. But what is a girl supposed to do when she is in love. The down side is that no matter how much me and "the guy" would text he like never asked me out or anything. So I had this big talk with my best friend cuz I figured she would have good advice for me. She told me to stop texting him for like a week and then he would totally come running to me. So I did what she said, but he never texting me. Like two weeks went by when I finally text him. He was like, "wow i thought you were mad at me so i left you alone." so I just told him I had been busy and stuff. THEN he tells me that he cant text me cuz his new girlfriend would be jealous. I couldn't believe it! So I was like who's your girl friend. IT WAS MY BEST FRIEND!!!! What the heck?? I confronted my BFF and she was like "well he really didn't like you.. he was just talking to you to get to me.." I was so mad. Then she said this, "and i would appreciate it if you would leave my boyfriend alone." Now I know that there is supposed to be some kind of girl code, my older sister talks about it, but am I being mean if I stop being her friend because of this. I mean I'm totally pissed about this. What should I do?
- Broken Heart
Dear Broken Heart,
I'm sorry to hear what your going through with your friend. Teen relationships are very complicated sometimes, but no matter what age you are it sucks to feel like you've had a knife stuck in your back by and friend.
There is such a thing as a "Girl Code", but I'm telling you now that not all girls practice it. There are actually 58 rules in the official Girl Code definition in the Urban Dictionary. And I am personally shocked, cuz I wasn't aware there were so many. Your particular problem is a violation of Rule #1..
1# Rule no 1 and the MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL.. No girl may date her friend's; exs, past crushes, guys who have humiliated/used her and guys she currently fancies...
-Urban Dictionary
It is totally your call if you want to de-friend your BFF. And who could blame you for wanting to. In my opinion, if she was truly your best friend then she should have never even considered dating a guy that you liked. And unfortunately if you do stay friends there will always be a distrust there.
Follow your heart, and be proud that you know better then to do that to someone else. Your well on your way to being the kind of person other girls should be friends with.
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